The truth is, here in the United States, men are oppressed on an equal, if not in some areas greater, basis than women
Yeah, I know... the "common wisdom" is, of course, that men are the great beneficiaries of "Patriarchy" and women are just victims. This "common wisdom" is so pervasive that even when the oppression of men is recognized (and usually it is only recognized in a dismissive and off-hand manner), it too is blamed on "Patriarchy."
This, naturally, makes no sense at all.
I mean, why would men set up a system that victimizes men, if the point of it is to allow men to be superior to women?
In any case, the facts speak for themselves:
- In the United States, women are treated better is every single aspect of the legal system. For example, Women receive lighter criminal sentences and enjoy a higher chance of acquittal simply for being women. Likewise, when it comes to rulings on child custody after divorce, men have to prove to the court that they are fit parents, while women are assumed to be so, merely because they are women.
- In the United States, men are the overwhelming majority (82%) when it comes to victims of violence.
- Despite it being established that women are just as equally likely to instigate domestic violence, and that men are equally likely to be the victim of domestic violence, there has never been any public service message campaign that seriously discusses female abusers or male victims. Male victims are ignored, marginalized, and are rendered the objects of comedy rather than being treated as the victims they are. In addition, while male perpetrators are regularly arrested, tried, and jailed, female perpetrators are rarely arrested, even more rarely convicted, and even when convicted benefit from the fact that women receive lighter sentences (as noted in point 1). And lastly, there are still many areas in this country where, when it comes to domestic violence calls, policy is to arrest the man and cart him off to jail, even when it is obvious that he is the victim.
- Certain Feminist political groups and lobbying concerns have taken active steps to ensure that laws that seek to change Point 3 never reach a vote, much less leave committee, in the various legislative bodies around the country, including the US Congress itself. When laws are passed that are detrimental to women and only women, or laws that are beneficial to women killed, complaints are raised, petitions are passed around, and counter-campaigns are begun immediately. When such things happen to laws that affect men and only men, such public outcry is rarely if ever heard, and if it is, counter-protests filled with accusations of misogyny occur in response.
- It is legal in all parts of this country to circumcise male babies. In fact, in some areas, laws have been passed which forbid any attempt to make male circumcision illegal, based on religious practices. Meanwhile, female circumcision is illegal everywhere in the United States, even when the "circumcision" is a ceremonial pinprick used to draw blood.
- 95% of all workplace deaths (including not only fatal accidents but heart attacks caused by job-related stress) are men. Nothing has ever been done about this.
- 75% of all suicides are men. Nothing has ever been done about this.
- The vast majority of prisoners are men. This relates to Point 1 above.
- The educational system in the United States has become so skewed toward "help girls achieve" that boys are being left behind. Boys do not receive anywhere near the level of encouragement as girls do when it comes to educational performance. Instead, they are generally seen as potential troublemakers. This lack of support for male educational endeavors continues all the way up to the university level. Women enter college 160% more often than men do, and graduate from college 320% more often. Nothing has ever been done about this.
- Men who are falsely accused of rape can have their names, faces, and home addresses published in news sources and have no recourse to stop it and no recourse for relieving the consequences of it. They have no right to sue their accuser, the media, or the government for the destruction the false accusation has inflicted on their lives. Their accuser is protected from public scrutiny, and is very likely to never face punishment, and when punishment on the false accuser is leveled, it is invariably a light one (see Point 1, above).
- Men have no reproductive rights in this country. None. Women can force a man to become a father regardless of his wishes.
- Men have virtually no parental rights in this country. A woman can name any man she likes as the father of her child, and is not required to notify him that she is doing so. If he does not actively prove that he is not the father within 30 days (and remember, she is not required to notify him that he has been named), he is now the father of the child and must pay child support. He is not legally entitled to challenge this in court once the determination is made.
- In the United States, men who are raped by women can be forced to financially support the children who are the product of said rapes, thus forcing them to associate with their rapists against their will. In addition, law enforcement agencies have intentionally redefined "rape" to specifically exclude rapes perpetrated against men by women, thus lessening the priority with which such cases are handled.
- In some areas of the United States, a man who fathers a child with a woman who then puts the child up for adoption has no recourse and may be forced to stand by and watch as his child is essentially kidnapped through the adoption process.
- 82% of homeless people are men.
- Despite the factual nature of Point 15, government spending when it comes to social relief (so-called "welfare services") is overwhelmingly keyed to assist homeless women. For example, in 2009/2010, the State of New York alone spent $3,740,800 in assistance for homeless men. The amount of social welfare money directed specifically and solely toward homeless women in New York during that same year was $98,983,236.
- Female entrepreneurs receive free government subsidization for no reason other than they are female. That is, when all other factors (size of business, projected income, number of employees, and so on) are equal, and the only difference is the gender of the business owner, the government will offer the female business owner subsidization loans while denying same to the male business owner.
- Up until 2010, all the major airlines manipulated their seating so that no men would be seated next to children. Why? Because men are seen as potential pedophiles, obviously. In 2010, this practice was discontinued by most major airlines after a study was released that demonstrated that female pedophiles outnumber male pedophiles 4 to 1. However, several major international airlines still follow the practice (Virgin Atlantic is the biggest offender, as I write this).
- Due to a federal directive, men who are expelled from federally funded colleges and universities (which is a fancy way of saying every single university and college in the United States) after being falsely accused of rape cannot be reinstated, despite their accusation being proven false.
- Men are required to register with the US Selective Service, and are thus subject to the draft, as a requirement of their being able to register to vote. Women are not held to any requirement in order to register to vote.
I could go on, but I think 20 points is a good start.
Also, you might notice that at no time did I once mention social discrimination, like when a group of women on a popular talk show laugh about and cheer on a woman who has cut off and destroyed her husband's penis simply because he was divorcing her. Or enforced gender stereotypes that force a man to work himself to death, or that treat all men as ravenous predators who are an inch away from being rapists.
I didn't bring those points up because ultimately, men still have a choice in such situations. People can mock a man who lists flower arrangement and sewing as a hobby, but ultimately its his choice to pursue such things. The points I brought up above aren't "social discrimination", but are distinct and very real differences in the way the government and the law treat men vs. women.
There's no choice involved here.
There is literally nothing a man can do about these things without trying to change the law.
And as noted in Point 4, its damned hard to get the law changed, because there are certain groups who don't want the law to be changed. This is government-enforced institutionalized discrimination against men. It is involuntary, inescapable, and non-consensual.
If you are a man and a victim of domestic violence, you cannot simply walk into a government-funded men's shelter. They do not exist. And when you call the police for help, not only is your female batterer going to be treated more fairly that you will be, there's even a good chance you're going to end up in handcuffs, just because you called the police for help.
Compared to all of this, the discrimination against women that gets discussed a lot is social discrimination. Has nothing to do with the legal system, is not an enforced and inescapable part of life. Its bad, and improper, and needs to be stopped, but the weight of the government is not keeping it in place.
I once saw a woman complain about how she did more unpaid housework than her husband, and that her situation was enforced by "societal norms". Even if that's true, she is choosing to do more housework. She is choosing to be involved with a man who does less housework than she does. She is choosing to tolerate such a life without coercion and without a legal penalty should she choose otherwise.
Men have no choice when it comes to the 20 points I've listed above.